I think trust is one of the key components in any
relationship, whether it is romantic or just a friendship. There was one time
where I lost trust in a really good friend of mine in college that I have known
since early high school. We were great friends, always hung out and talked even
though we went to different schools. I found out from someone that my friend
was talking bad about me and telling people a bunch of things that were not
true. I felt very betrayed and hurt that one of my really good friends would do
something like that to me. For a while I did not speak to this person and after
a while of not talking he called me and apologized for what he had done. Although
I was very hurt by his actions I accepted his apology because I still wanted to
be friends with him. At first it was difficult to trust him so I kept my guard up,
but after a while we became just as close and even closer than we were before. We
are still friends and we get along great now.
I’m glad that your friend and you were able to work things out. So often when we withdraw from someone for something like that it ends up being the end of the relationship.
ReplyDeleteI’ve had friends talk about me and talk about each other, the whole nine yards. In some instances it’s hard to tell who to trust because the stories conflict with one another. I had a small group of friends once who practically imploded when some of them had a falling out. Both sides gave their version to the rest of us and said terrible things about the other. I wanted to be able to go with my gut on who was telling the truth, but it couldn’t seem to make up its mind. In the end we all drifted apart. I’ve run in to them all again over the years and heard even wilder tales about what the other has supposedly done or said. It really makes me glad I bowed out rather than pick a side - I’m sure I’d still be hearing about it today!
Your situation sounds much simpler, but none the less frustrating. By apologizing to you, your friend admitted to what he had done. I assume that he was fairly contrite about it and that’s what helped you let him back in to your life.