week 11, post 2

I think people make false attributions al of the time. I think false attributions can be very harmful to relationships and friendships. There have been plenty of times where I have made some false attributions about other people and it has not lead to something positive. My false attributions have usually led to some kind of an argument. I think false attributions happen because people assume things and they do not know the clear facts. When people assume things about others it usually is not positive assumptions which usually leads to a conflict. Whenever I have made false attributions it usually does not lead to something very big but it most of the time leads to a little bit of a conflict. There have also been some times that making accurate attributions about others that have helped me. There have been times where I think someone is thinking something and I have been right. I think that people do make some accurate attributions but most of them are false which leads to some conflict.

week 11, post 1

When searching the internet for the three terms I used Google. I usually use Google for most of my research. When searching “forgiveness” the first website that came up was Wikipedia. I think most searches I do the first thing that comes up is usually Wikipedia. I also saw a couple of websites about how the Bible teaches people to forgive. I also saw a website that said “A Campaign for Forgiveness Research.” When I looked up “reconciliation” the first website that came up were two Wikipedia sites. Another website that came up in my search was Dictionary.com which is a website that gave the definition and meaning of reconciliation. There were also just a bunch of random sites that came along with the search. The third word I search was “revenge.” When I searched revenge the first website that came up was two websites that had “Full Episodes” of a show called “Revenge.” The next thing that came up was a Wikipedia page. There were some more “Revenge” websites for the TV show along with some random websites. The term that produced the most sites was “forgiveness.” I think that term has so many meanings which is why that produced the most websites during my search.  

week 10, post 3

The concept I am going to pick from this week’s reading is the second question response about forgiving others. One of the most difficult things in life is forgiving people. People these days like to hold grudges and lose trust in others who betray them. When something happens to me I try to forgive and forget. Although it is easier said than done, I try to do that whenever someone betrays my trust. Trust is one of the most important things in any type of relationship, whether it is romantic or just a friendship. I am not currently having any trouble forgiving someone but there was a time during my freshman year of college where I did. One of my roommates had “borrowed” a pair of shorts from me. He did not ask me if he could wear them but if he did I would have said yes without hesitation. I saw him wearing my shorts one day and I asked if those were mine. The first thing he said was “no.” I believed him because I did not know if he had the same pair. The next day I went to my dresser to wear those shorts and they were not there. I put two and two together and realized my roommate was wearing them the day before. I confronted him and then he admitted to “borrowing” them, even though he didn’t ask. I found it very hard to trust him from then on. We were still friends but I made sure to keep an eye on him at all times. It is hard to live with someone you don’t fully trust. Although I am still friends with the kid I do not fully trust him and I don’t think I ever will.  

week 10, post 2

I think one of the hardest things to do in life is forgive. People get so angry or upset at something or someone that they have a very difficult time forgiving them and hold grudges. When I come across a conflict or some sort of difficulty I try to forgive and forget. It was way easier said than done though. Currently I am not having trouble with forgiving anyone but there have been times in the past where it has been difficult for me. My freshman year of college, one of my roommates had “borrowed” a pair of shorts from me. He did not ask me if he could wear them but if he did I would have said yes without hesitation. I saw him wearing my shorts one day and I asked if those were mine. The first thing he said was “no.” I believed him because I did not know if he had the same pair. The next day I went to my dresser to wear those shorts and they were not there. I put two and two together and realized my roommate was wearing them the day before. I confronted him and then he admitted to “borrowing” them, even though he didn’t ask. I found it very hard to trust him from then on. We were still friends but I made sure to keep an eye on him at all times. It is hard to live with someone you don’t fully trust. Although I am still friends with the kid I do not fully trust him and I don’t think I ever will.  

week 10, post 1

I am a member of a couple social networks. I am a member of Facebook and Twitter. I have had a Facebook since high school and I have been using Twitter for about a year now. I do not really use my Facebook anymore so I am going to talk about how I use and represent myself on Twitter. On Twitter I try to represent myself as a normal guy who likes to play baseball, hang out, and have a good time. I never post anything that would put myself in a bad situation or make people think differently of me. I use the thinking that “I would never put anything on Twitter my grandma wouldn’t want to see.” I hope people see me as a professional. I never post anything bad about anyone else and never have any swear words. I try to keep things cool and I never talk about myself trying to tell people how good or bad I am. There have been a few times when people have posted some questionable things on my Twitter. I wished they didn’t put those kind of things and once I see them I instantly delete it because I do not want myself represented in the manor.

week 9, post 3

The concept I found most interesting from this week’s reading was work versus play. I think it is important to have a balance between work and play and I believe that is where most people struggle. I make sure that I have a good balance of work and play. When I was a freshman at SJSU I took a “leisure” class. The course was called “Creating A Meaningful Life.” The class taught me how to make sure I am having “leisure time” or “me time” along with working hard. I thought this class taught me a lot because some people get so wrapped up in their work or their jobs they do not know how to have some fun and forget about their obligations. It is a good thing to forget about for responsibilities for a little but and allow yourself to enjoy your life and not always be in work mode. Overall, this class taught me to have a bit more fun and not just focus on work or school and to have some fun.

week 9, post 2

I think people have many different ways of expressing themselves when they are angry. Some people blow up, others express themselves calmly, while others do not express themselves at all. Personally, I am person who does not express my feelings. I chose not to express my feelings because I like to keep things in. I am not a very quiet person and I like to talk but when it comes to feelings I tend to keep them to myself. I feel that it is better when I keep my feelings to myself because that is just the way I am. I feel that not expressing my feelings it has different outcomes. Sometimes I feel that not expressing myself is good because I do not let people know what I am thinking and they cannot tell if I am upset or in a good mood. On the other hand, if I am in a really bad mood and I keep my feelings in it can be a little depressing or stressful. Overall, I think keeping my feelings in benefits me because that is always the way I have been and I like keeping feelings to myself.

week 9, post 1

In life people experience work, school, and other commitments. Many people prefer to have other commitments like sports, television, hanging with friends, etc. instead of school or work. I think it all depends on how you live your life and how you go about your business. Some people get really wrapped up in work or school and do not allow themselves to have “leisure” time. Other people experience a lot of “leisure” and do not take work or school very serious. This chapter refers talks about the difference between work and play. I plan to apply school and work commitments in a very distinct way that tributes each of the “three solutions.” I think making a clear distinction between work and play is very important to me. I tend to have a lot of play time because I play a sport as well as have tons of time to hang out with my friends off the field. When I “play” I have a really good time and enjoy myself. I know that my definition of play might be a little different from another person’s definition of play but as long as the person finds leisure I think it is good. I believe that eliminating stress from work or school and finding time to have some fun or leisure is very important to living a healthy lifestyle.

week 7, post 3

The concept I am going to take from this week’s reading is trust. Trust is a major factor in any type of relationship. If you have trust you will have a long and successful relationship, and it you do not have trust your relationship will crumble. For example, I was really good friends with a kid all through high school and when we went away to college I heard that he was spreading rumors about me. I was very hurt by his actions and we did not talk for a long time. I had no idea why he would be saying things about me since we were such good friends all through high school. After not speaking to one another for a while he ended up calling me and apologizing to me for what he had done. I accepted his apology but did not completely trust him yet. It took a lot for him to prove himself to me again. We still hung out but I didn’t trust him. After a long time of hanging out and being friends again, I started to trust him more and more. Now we are very good friends again and we both trust each other completely.

week 7, post 2

Unbalanced power relationships has certain effects on people but it also depends on which side you are on. An unbalanced power relationship I have encountered is between myself and my head coach. Head coaches know they have all of the power and pretty much control every aspect of their team. They also know that they can dictate who plays and who doesn’t play. I feel that some coaches go a little over board and go on a “power trip.” They have so much power that sometimes they do not even notice they are going overboard. From a personal experience my head coach last year loved to control every little thing and pretty much micro-managed our team. As a player with a coach like that, you have very little power. You almost feel like you a nothing and you have no say or no opinion and are not able to be yourself. This can lead to a very negative effect because you are pretty much a robot. On the other hand I have coached a little kids team, holding all of the power. When I was coaching I did not go on a “power trip” because I knew how much of a negative effect it had on me and my teammates. Having more power can be very dangerous because if you go on a “power trip” you may lose respect in that relationship.

week 7, post 1

I think trust is one of the key components in any relationship, whether it is romantic or just a friendship. There was one time where I lost trust in a really good friend of mine in college that I have known since early high school. We were great friends, always hung out and talked even though we went to different schools. I found out from someone that my friend was talking bad about me and telling people a bunch of things that were not true. I felt very betrayed and hurt that one of my really good friends would do something like that to me. For a while I did not speak to this person and after a while of not talking he called me and apologized for what he had done. Although I was very hurt by his actions I accepted his apology because I still wanted to be friends with him. At first it was difficult to trust him so I kept my guard up, but after a while we became just as close and even closer than we were before. We are still friends and we get along great now.