week 16, post 3

I have learned so much during this course on how to handle conflict. At first I was not sure what I was getting myself into when I knew I was taking a conflict class, but it ended up being much different than what I was expecting. I learned what to do when conflict occurs and how to control my anger. I think these two things I learned not only helped me for this class, but will help me throughout my life. Having these types of skills will allow me to confront any type of conflict with a calm, open mind and I will know what to do when I am in an uncomfortable situation. This class also taught me how to deal with my anger and what steps to take when something is troubling me. This skill will help me outside of this class because it seems like people are always trying to get under your skin and knowing how to deal with that type of situation is important. Overall, this class taught me a lot and I enjoyed taking this class.

week 16, post 2

This class was one of my favorite classes I have taken at SJSU. I like how our professor gave us updates weekly and would always respond to our emails right away. Another thing I enjoyed about this class was the weekly posts. I thought it allowed me to express myself as well as communicate with other classmates even though we have never met in person. The thing I liked least about this class was the semester long project. I thought it was very difficult, even though I did well on it. I thought it was very time consuming and it was challenging to keep up with everything at first. I would recommend this class to other students and I already have done that. I thought this class was challenging enough but not impossible to pass or enjoy. Some of the people I have told to take this class are taking it next semester. Overall, I thought this class was great and I enjoyed taking it.

week 16, post 1

When people think of conflict they instantly think of something negative or something they do not want to be a part of. Conflict has a negative thing about it that people get scared and people become scared about what is going to happen to them. The main thing when dealing with conflict is understanding how to assess and handle the situation. When people think of conflict they think of something bad. Conflict does not always have to be something negative. Conflict can be negative, but it can also be positive, which many people are not aware of. Once someone understands the types of conflict and how to deal with a situation, they will be much more comfortable during conflict. From a personal experience, I am way less fearful or nervous when I am in a conflict situation. It does not matter whether it is a positive or negative conflict, I feel that what I have learned throughout this course has allowed me to deal with conflict in the right matter.

week 11, post 3

The concept I am going to take from this week’s assigned reading is false and accurate attributions. People make attributions about others all of the time. I think a lot of it has to do with assumptions. Many people make assumptions and that can lead to false attributions as well as accurate attributions. For example, I made a false attribution about a teammate when I didn’t know him very well. I thought he was kind of a cocky kid who liked to talk and I had a little problem with him for some reason. I made this false attribution from what other people had told me but did not give him a chance before I actually knew him. It turned out he was actually a good guy and he is pretty funny. Another example is when I met another teammate and thought he was a very good player and a funny guy. I also didn’t know him very well but that is what it seemed like. It turned out I was right and made an accurate attribution about this guy. I think making attributions can be very challenging because you do not know if they are accurate or false.

week 11, post 2

I think people make false attributions al of the time. I think false attributions can be very harmful to relationships and friendships. There have been plenty of times where I have made some false attributions about other people and it has not lead to something positive. My false attributions have usually led to some kind of an argument. I think false attributions happen because people assume things and they do not know the clear facts. When people assume things about others it usually is not positive assumptions which usually leads to a conflict. Whenever I have made false attributions it usually does not lead to something very big but it most of the time leads to a little bit of a conflict. There have also been some times that making accurate attributions about others that have helped me. There have been times where I think someone is thinking something and I have been right. I think that people do make some accurate attributions but most of them are false which leads to some conflict.

week 11, post 1

When searching the internet for the three terms I used Google. I usually use Google for most of my research. When searching “forgiveness” the first website that came up was Wikipedia. I think most searches I do the first thing that comes up is usually Wikipedia. I also saw a couple of websites about how the Bible teaches people to forgive. I also saw a website that said “A Campaign for Forgiveness Research.” When I looked up “reconciliation” the first website that came up were two Wikipedia sites. Another website that came up in my search was Dictionary.com which is a website that gave the definition and meaning of reconciliation. There were also just a bunch of random sites that came along with the search. The third word I search was “revenge.” When I searched revenge the first website that came up was two websites that had “Full Episodes” of a show called “Revenge.” The next thing that came up was a Wikipedia page. There were some more “Revenge” websites for the TV show along with some random websites. The term that produced the most sites was “forgiveness.” I think that term has so many meanings which is why that produced the most websites during my search.  

week 10, post 3

The concept I am going to pick from this week’s reading is the second question response about forgiving others. One of the most difficult things in life is forgiving people. People these days like to hold grudges and lose trust in others who betray them. When something happens to me I try to forgive and forget. Although it is easier said than done, I try to do that whenever someone betrays my trust. Trust is one of the most important things in any type of relationship, whether it is romantic or just a friendship. I am not currently having any trouble forgiving someone but there was a time during my freshman year of college where I did. One of my roommates had “borrowed” a pair of shorts from me. He did not ask me if he could wear them but if he did I would have said yes without hesitation. I saw him wearing my shorts one day and I asked if those were mine. The first thing he said was “no.” I believed him because I did not know if he had the same pair. The next day I went to my dresser to wear those shorts and they were not there. I put two and two together and realized my roommate was wearing them the day before. I confronted him and then he admitted to “borrowing” them, even though he didn’t ask. I found it very hard to trust him from then on. We were still friends but I made sure to keep an eye on him at all times. It is hard to live with someone you don’t fully trust. Although I am still friends with the kid I do not fully trust him and I don’t think I ever will.